Ramblings

Introspective narcissism since the 2000s.

User Tools

Site Tools


conflict_resolution:start

Differences

This shows you the differences between two versions of the page.

Link to this comparison view

Both sides previous revisionPrevious revision
Next revision
Previous revision
conflict_resolution:start [2026/03/02 23:12] ultracomfyconflict_resolution:start [2026/06/09 12:57] (current) ultracomfy
Line 2: Line 2:
 ====== Conflict Resolution ====== ====== Conflict Resolution ======
 ===== Standard Conflict Resolution ===== ===== Standard Conflict Resolution =====
-Through observation and introspection I have, over the years, developed a somewhat socially adapted [[Systems|system]] to navigate and deescalate interpersonal conflict. The system primarily serves as a framework/guideline for me on how to express my feelings and encourage a conversation to peacefully resolve problems. This is done in five distinct "stages", the fifth of which coming into effect in case the system fails at producing sufficient results. Exact descriptions for each stage can be seen below.+Through observation and introspection I have, over the years, developed a somewhat socially adapted [[:Systems|system]] to navigate and deescalate interpersonal conflict. The system primarily serves as a framework/guideline for me on how to express my feelings and encourage a conversation to peacefully resolve problems. This is done in five distinct "stages", the fifth of which coming into effect in case the system fails at producing sufficient results. Exact descriptions for each stage can be seen below.
  
 There used to be a past in which I rationalized human conflict in these five stages  //exactly//. I warned and final'd and consequence'd people directly and explicitly, which was extremely socially unadapted, got me weird looks, I did not get taken serious, ridiculed, and it made situations worse. That last part was because people thought I was robotically threatening them with consequences, which none of this is actually about. While the goal is indeed to be robotic (insofar as to be very predictable and calculated), the goal is //not// to threaten people. Every step before actual consequences themselves are about //avoiding// consequences by inviting a person to a conversation. The big words on the cover ("Warning", Final", etc.) really just state how important it is. There used to be a past in which I rationalized human conflict in these five stages  //exactly//. I warned and final'd and consequence'd people directly and explicitly, which was extremely socially unadapted, got me weird looks, I did not get taken serious, ridiculed, and it made situations worse. That last part was because people thought I was robotically threatening them with consequences, which none of this is actually about. While the goal is indeed to be robotic (insofar as to be very predictable and calculated), the goal is //not// to threaten people. Every step before actual consequences themselves are about //avoiding// consequences by inviting a person to a conversation. The big words on the cover ("Warning", Final", etc.) really just state how important it is.
Line 10: Line 10:
 I will also mention that there are some acts which are so egregiously and obviously malicious that some, most or even all steps are skipped. Standard Conflict Resolution is closely tied to [[:ULTRACOMFY Ethical Jurisdiction System|Ethical Jurisdiction]] and often goes hand in hand. In these cases, pro-active defense is necessitated by the offender and we cannot wait until the system is run through conventionally. I will also mention that there are some acts which are so egregiously and obviously malicious that some, most or even all steps are skipped. Standard Conflict Resolution is closely tied to [[:ULTRACOMFY Ethical Jurisdiction System|Ethical Jurisdiction]] and often goes hand in hand. In these cases, pro-active defense is necessitated by the offender and we cannot wait until the system is run through conventionally.
  
-[[Notice]] 
  
-[[Warning]]+# 1. [[Notice]]
  
-[[Repeated Warning]]+# 2. [[Warning]]
  
-[[Final]]+# 3. [[Repeated Warning]]
  
-[[Consequences]]+# 4. [[Final]]
  
-===== Emergencies ===== +# 5[[Consequences]]
-To mitigate the risk of conflict and escalation during a conversation, my then-best friend and I developed a flag system with the goal of enabling quick emotions communication and enabling swift and mutually understood action to prevent escalation.+
  
 +<WRAP center round alert 60%>
 +In case of a full diplomatic failure, your only method recourse may be initiating a conversation through requesting your Identifier or Extended Profile. See [[:people:start|People]] for more information.
  
-{{:forfeit_green.png?nolink&20}} [[Green Flag]]+The goal of this system of conflict resolution is to //avoid// drama with peopleWhile I might resolve to issuing S5-Consequences, the basic.* permission //always// persists to give individuals a method to get things sorted out if they want something to get sorted out, //even// in a Full Diplomatic Failure. 
 +</WRAP>
  
-{{:forfeit_yellow.png?nolink&20}} [[Yellow Flag]] 
  
-{{:forfeit.png?nolink&20}} [[Red Flag]] +See also: [[Emergencies|Emergencies]]
- +
-{{:forfeit.png?nolink&20}} [[Emotions Check]]+
conflict_resolution/start.1772493128.txt.gz · Last modified: by ultracomfy

Donate Powered by PHP Valid HTML5 Valid CSS Driven by DokuWiki