Differences

This shows you the differences between two versions of the page.

--- incest [2024/12/11 23:04] – ultracomfy
+++ incest [2025/06/05 00:26] (current) – ultracomfy
@@ Line 1: / Line 1: @@
+~~Title:Incest~~
 <WRAP center round rationalwiki 60%>
 <WRAP column 7%>
@@ Line 10: / Line 11: @@
 <fs xx-large>Incest</fs> describes all [[Sexual Intercourse|sexual activity]] between close, human relatives.
-A preface: Incest faces one the strictest sexual taboos in society, second only to [[pedophilia]], almost to the point of omnilateral repulsion. Personally, I don't have any strong feelings about it. Incest isn't relevant to me or my life. I care about incest insofar as that I am trying to ascertain whether incest is a morally defensible practice or not. The way incest is presented most of the time makes it seem like people want to say that it's **//wrong//**, that one **//shouldn't do it//** and I want to find out whether there is actual substance to the claim.
+A preface: Incest faces one the strictest sexual taboos in society, second only to [[pedophilia]], almost to the point of omnilateral repulsion. Personally, I don't have any strong feelings about it. Incest isn't relevant to me or my life. I care about incest insofar as that I am trying to ascertain whether incest is a morally defensible practice or not. The way incest is presented most of the time makes it seem like people want to say that it's **//wrong//**, that one **//shouldn't do it//** and I want to find out whether there is actual substance to the claim. What I come to find is that I kind of get it, though from some very specific perspectives that are a lot more involved than I originally anticipated (which is why this is so interesting to me to begin with).
-The problem with incest is that even though it is almost omnilaterally rejected, I haven't yet found any serious moral objections to incest as a whole. I have never had any serious conversations with people about it and so I haven't gotten much further than a reasoning like "it's disgusting". The problem with this argument is that it is a [[value judgement]], not a binding fact with prescriptive powers. People are welcome to their personal tastes, so if one thinks of something as disgusting they are free to refrain from doing whatever it is that makes them uncomfortable.((Well, as long as it remains within their own sphere of personal freedom. If one finds face masks (the ones against diseases) disgusting, they still have to wear masks in a pandemic because other people's health and safety interests supersede their right to freedom of self-expression.)) Beyond this, there are a few interesting points being brought up against incest:
+The problem with incest is that even though it is almost fully rejected, I have only found tentative objections to partial elements of incest. Bear in mind I have never had any serious conversations with people about it and so I haven't gotten much further than a reasoning like "it's disgusting". The problem with this argument is that it is a [[value judgement]], not a binding fact with prescriptive powers. People are welcome to their personal tastes, so if one thinks of something as disgusting they are free to refrain from doing whatever it is that makes them uncomfortable.((Well, as long as it remains within their own sphere of personal freedom. If one finds face masks (the ones against diseases) disgusting, they still have to wear masks in a pandemic because other people's health and safety interests supersede their right to freedom of self-expression.)) But, there are far more interesting objections to raise:
 ====== Diseases ======
@@ Line 49: / Line 50: @@
 </WRAP>
-====== It isn't natural ======
+====== Unnaturality ======
-Your mom isn't natural.<fs x-small>If that doesn't convince you, how about: "That's what they said about homosexuality as well." - In short: Why is it unnatural? Who are you to decide what is or is not natural? Why does being counter-intuitive make it unnatural? What's bad about doing unnatural things? Does it harm or hurt anyone?</fs> I have yet to see an argumentum ad nature that isn't just purely based on intuition.
+Others put forward that incest is "unnatural", but this argument runs into the same problem as the "it's disgusting" line does: It's a [[value judgement]]. Why is it unnatural? Who decides what is or is not natural? Why does being counter-intuitive make it unnatural? What's bad about doing unnatural things? Does it harm or hurt anyone? I have yet to see an argumentum ad nature that isn't just purely based on intuition.
-====== I invoke God to win this argument! ======
+====== god ======
-And I invoke the flying Spaghetti monster, because //he// tells //me// that incest is perfectly fine. But that's heretical? You are heretical to //my// god and belief system. Now try to get out of this stalemate, motherducker!
+There are so many problems with this. Which god? Why that one? How can we verify our chosen god is real? If those three questions can be answered, then next why care about what a god has to say? Gods are an opinion and people are entitled to theirs, but whether something is "good" or "bad" is an empirical and philosophical question with near-absolute answers, upon which god only has a bearing if we know or at least have reasonable grounds to believe that one exists.
 ====== But it's children! ======
@@ Line 59: / Line 60: @@
 ====== It's a sign of development issues ======
-I actually don't even know here. It might be. Is incest related to developmental disorders? Does removing the prohibition on incest promote those disorders? I mean, I don't know why people would do incest in the first place, I've never talked to one about their motivations. I could see people, especially younger people who don't really make these kinds of distinctions (but then also run into the issue of being unable to consent), kind of just experimenting around; and their family members, especially siblings, will be the easiest test subjects to come by. Look, I don't know when, why and how that kind of stuff happens, I'm really just pulling things out of my ass right now.\\
+I actually don't even know here. It might be. Is incest related to developmental disorders? Does removing the prohibition on incest promote those disorders? I mean, I don't know why people would do incest in the first place, I've never talked to one about their motivations. I could understand younger people, especially children who don't really make these kinds of distinctions (but then also run into the issue of being unable to consent), kind of just experimenting around; and their family members, especially siblings, will be the easiest test subjects to come by. Look, I don't know when, why and how that kind of stuff happens, I'm really just pulling things out of my ass right now.\\
 Anyway, seeing how counter-intuitive and disgusted even //I// feel thinking about incest with what little family I have, I can't rule it out that there could be psychological issues attached to the emergence of incestuous behaviors. Not causative factors per se, if anything then probably just correlation, but maybe just nothing at all. But then again, [[Statistical inevitability|on a large enough population, all kinds of things are mathematically bound to happen eventually]], so in case it //is// strongly correlated to developmental disorders, there would still be more than enough circumstances in which it would //just happen//. Just like that.
 ====== Parents and children ======
-The relationship between a parent and their child is special. It is based on safety and mutual trust. It feels like a parent engaging in sexual activity with their child is violating those principles of trust and compromises the safety of that child.((Remember, [[Pedophilia|sexual activities with a minor]] constitute sexual abuse and/or rape. I am talking about people that have both passed the age of consent - both the legal age of consent AND the proposed age of consent for incestuous sex [[Incest#But it's children!|as proposed earlier]].)) However, while I can agree that it really does kind of feel that way, I can't really explain it. Why would it compromise the safety of the child? Why would it break their trust((A Note From PiousLittleChristianGirl: if I could venture a guess as to why this might feel problematic; I think a sexual relationship between parents and (adult) children could be damaging due to the power dynamic present within the family structure. Even after becoming adults, many people with (thus far) “healthy” relationships with their parents will still know that if things get rough, those parents will help/support/love them. Though they are no longer active caregivers, that can still be their effective role. This could cause conflicts in terms of consent. The child might think “will they still provide x (whether that be physical, monetary, emotional, etc…) support if I reject this?” Even if moving towards a sexual relationship is the child’s idea, it could turn toxic very quickly. I’d call this “weighted consent” where, yes, they’re “consenting”, but it might be for different reasons than they would consent to sex with someone who //doesn’t// hold power over them. And I imagine it could be all that and worse in “unhealthy” parent/child relationships. All of those previous forms of support might not have always been present, and the child might view the incest as a means of garnering the favor or support they always craved. This could just generally be a breeding ground for manipulation and exploitation.))? Because //I// set different expectations for myself? Who decides that the line of trust ends //before// and not //behind// incest?
+The relationship between a parent and their child is special. It is based on safety and mutual trust. It feels like a parent engaging in sexual activity with their child is violating those principles of trust and compromises the safety of that child.((Remember, [[Pedophilia|sexual activities with a minor]] constitute sexual abuse and/or rape. I am talking about people that have both passed the age of consent - both the legal age of consent AND the proposed age of consent for incestuous sex [[Incest#But it's children!|as proposed earlier]].)) However, while I can agree that it really does kind of feel that way, I can't really explain it. Why would it compromise the safety of the child? Why would it break their trust? Because //I// set different expectations for myself? Who decides that the line of trust ends //before// and not //behind// incest?