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-Ultimately, if nothing else helps, consequences will ensue. This only happens after a person had enough warning ahead of time to change course, either through me telling them or by the obviously harmful nature of their action inherently. Consequences, again, are not meant to be pointed. I'm not a parent, I'm not raising children, it's not my responsibility nor goal to show people what's right or wrong through punishment, consequences are always defensive. Consequences can be, for example, the end of a friendship, refusal to talk to a person, me starting to dislike a person I previously liked((This distinction matters because I do I can dislike //new// people without going through the Standard Communication System with them. Me dislike a person I just now got acquainted with is not a "consequence" typically because I can dislike people for all kinds of reasons regardless of whether it has anything to do with me, whereas the Standard Communication System is in place to be nice to people who are //directly// affecting me.)) or any other defensive action that insulates me from the damage that the problem in question would otherwise cause.
+Ultimately, if nothing else helps, //Consequences// will ensue. This only happens after a person had enough warning ahead of time to change course, either through me telling them or by the obviously harmful nature of their action inherently. Consequences, again, are not meant to be pointed. I'm not a parent, I'm not raising children, it's not my responsibility nor goal to show people what's right or wrong through punishment, consequences are always defensive. Consequences can be, for example, the end of a friendship, refusal to talk to a person, me starting to dislike a person I previously liked((This distinction matters because I can dislike //new// people without going through the Standard Communication System with them. Me disliking a person I just now got acquainted with is not a "consequence", typically, because I can dislike people for all kinds of reasons regardless of whether it has anything to do with me, whereas the Standard Communication System is in place to be nice to people who are //directly// affecting me.)) or any other defensive action that insulates me from the damage that the problem in question would otherwise cause((This should not be confused with any other aggression I might show. I can get aggressive, but aggression like that is not governed through the Standard Communication System. Universally, if I'm aggressive then it's not a result of an S5. it's due to other reasons.)).
-This should not be confused with any other aggression I might show. I can get aggressive, but aggression like that is not governed through the Standard Communication System. Universally, if I'm aggressive then it's not a result of an S5. it's due to other reasons.
+Where there are good odds that nothing irreversibly bad has happened by the time I issue a Final Warning, reaching the Consequences stage means that //now// is indeed the point where bad things have happened. I might be disappointed by a person, I might stop liking a person, if any of that kind happens, it happens in //this// step. All previous steps, step Notice through step Final Warning are designed to prevent this particular moment by giving the other person plenty of room to cooperate to avoid it or, failing that, to make the process to a consequence as transparent and predictable as possible for the other person. The goal, in every single step until here is to return to a pre-notice situation where everything is fine and the person and I get along, stage S5 only exists because there sometimes //are// situations where the closest you can get to a pre-notice situation is by cutting your losses.
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