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Procedures
Standard Communication System
In normal, day to day, operations we can always accidentally do things that tick other people off. Most conflicts in the world are unintentional and with people you can never know what specific triggers there are for specific people. By default we do not know what people are like, so even though we have social norms and cultures, specific people may (dis)like things that others would not. This means that other people depend on you to tell them when they do things you would rather them not. For this, I have the Standard Communication System, and the ultimate goal of this system is to create a predictable environment in which problems can be talked about in a way that is fair to everyone. To be specific, I disallow myself to hand out consequences to people who I haven't even told that there are things they're doing that I don't like. It would be massively unfair to start shitting on people before they even knew that I didn't like something they did. Naturally, this does not cover everything - some things that are obviously hurting people both physically or emotionally will skip some stages. Just unadulterated physical assault will skip through to the consequences stage right away, it mostly depends on my personal preferences: When an act was obviously done intentionally to hurt then consequences will ensue instantly, but if it is conceivable that an act was accidental then they might just get a final instead. If a person did something that I don't like but they couldn't even have known then they will be getting a warning, and if I'm not even sure myself how to interpret an action then they may just get a notice at first. At the same time, even if a person does something that just isn't OK and they are aware of it, they usually deserve at least a chance, for which this system is useful as well. The goal is always to give people the chance to change course before things escalate.
Emergencies
To mitigate the risk of conflict and escalation during a conversation, my best friend and I developed a flag system with the goal of enabling quick emotions communication and enabling swift and mutually understood action to prevent escalation.
