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 While there are many ways to express remorse, regret and a sincere commitment to maintaining social harmony, the classical approach for speaking humans is what we call an **apology**. In its simplest terms, an apology is an explicit expression of these feelings (ie. a "formal display"), either in spoken or written form. Strategically, from the perspective of the offender, the goal of an apology is to convince others that they are genuinely feeling remorse, regret and are committed to maintaining social harmony in the future. A really heartfelt apology will have the emotional goal to also alleviate some of that remorse, in the hope that expressing one's regret makes the victims feel better.
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+Difference between Regret and Remorse: Regret and remorse are different and only one is needed to issue an apology. Remorse is an ethical admission of having committed an injustice, whereas regret can be felt for anything, even things outside one's own control. People can apologize for anything they regret, I only apologize out of remorse.
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 ====== Over-Apologization ======
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-"Wanted to exude remorse anyway for a laugh? We had a tool for that, it was called moving the fuck on with your life and doing better." - Why do I even write pages when I could just post intelligent pictures instead?
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 Another phenomenon with apologies is people who cannot help themselves from constantly apologizing over every minute thing that, if it does not cause an inconvenience, at least had the potential to cause an inconvenience. The classic response to being told to please stop is an apology for the constant apologizing. The type to over-apologize is typically one that is very insecure and extremely paranoid about what others think about them, often even to the point where they would still rather apologize even if they're told that their apologies are much worse than not saying anything. It is probably a learned response from a time (often with parents?) in which even the slightest missteps would set people off, so they would learn to pre-empt that by using apologization as an //appeasement strategy//. I don't like over-apologization for three primary reasons:
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 ====== Apologies in my System ======
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+"Wanted to exude remorse anyway for a laugh? We had a tool for that, it was called moving the fuck on with your life and doing better." - Why do I even write pages when I could just post intelligent pictures instead?
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 As you will perhaps be able to preticipate, I have systematized the process of giving out apologies. In fact, I call it "issuing" apologies. However, even though it is systematized, and even though I do calculate thresholds for issuing apologies, much of the system resembles what would be going on in anyone else's brain regarding apologies.