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Procedures

Standard Conflict Resolution

There used to be a past in which I rationalized human conflict like this exactly. I warned and final'd and consequence'd people directly and explicitly, which was extremely socially unadapted, got me weird looks, not taken serious and made situations worse. That last part was because people thought I was robotically threatening them with consequences, which none of this is actually about. While the goal is indeed to be robotic (insofar as to be very predictable and understandable), the goal is not to threaten people. Every step before actual consequences themselves are about avoiding consequences by inviting a person to a conversation. The big words on the cover (“Warning”, Final“, etc.) really just state how important it is.

These days I do this in a way that is a lot more socially adapted. I don't explicitly tell people “This is an S3-Repeat Warn”

Notice

Warning

Repeated Warning

Final

Consequences

Emergencies

To mitigate the risk of conflict and escalation during a conversation, my then-best friend and I developed a flag system with the goal of enabling quick emotions communication and enabling swift and mutually understood action to prevent escalation.

Green Flag

Yellow Flag

Red Flag

Emotions Check

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